The truth of matrescence, or the transition to motherhood, is that it's messy. It's overwhelming. It's a period of intense transition where you your mind, body and spirit feel out of control and you don't recognize the person in the mirror. You lose your confidence. You're caught between two worlds. You're stumbling to figure out who this new person is. What she likes. What she fears. What she needs. When you listen to your inner voice and go against the grain, you get Mom-Shamed and bullied…by other people going through the same thing you are. So when we say motherhood is hard. This is what we mean.
And it's also beautiful. Mixed in with the exhaustion, the ambivalence, the guilt are moments of pure elation. Gratitude. Inspiration. Awe as you watch your child grow. You are on separate journeys of discovery…but you get to do it together and that is an incredible gift.
So far all the Mamas out there who feel like they're failing. Who feel numb. Who feel burnt out and overwhelmed. Who feel alone. Who feel drained. Who feel deceived by society's narrative of motherhood, this episode is for you. These are the five things I wish I'd been told about motherhood before I began matrescence.